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Screening Tool: Relationships

This survey is designed to provide a quick assessment of the health of your couple relationship. However, no test is 100% accurate. No matter what your score is, you should seek help if you have any concerns about yourself or your loved ones.


This relationships quiz was developed by the Gottman Institute.


Please answer the following questions:

1. I can name my partner's best friends.
2. I know what stresses my partner is currently facing.
3. I know the names of some of the people who have been irritating my partner lately.
4. I can tell you some of my partner's life dreams.
5. I can tell you about my partner's basic philosophy of life.
6. I can list the relatives my partner likes the least.
7. I feel that my partner knows me pretty well.
8. When we are apart, I often think fondly of my partner.
9. I often touch or kiss my partner affectionately.
10. My partner really respects me.
11. There is fire and passion in this relationship.
12. Romance is definitely still part of our relationship.
13. My partner appreciates the things I do in this relationship.
14. My partner generally likes my personality.
15. Our sex life is mostly satisfying.
16. At the end of the day my partner is glad to see me.
17. My partner is one of my best friends.
18. We just love talking to each other.
19. There is lots of give and take (both people have influence) in our discussions.
20. My partner listens respectfully, even when we disagree.
21. My partner is usually a great help as a problem solver.
22. We generally mesh well on basic values and goals in life. acknowledges the generosity of the Gottman Institute in making possible the use of this quiz.


The How Well Do You Know Your Partner quiz was written by Dr. John Gottman and re-printed from the website of The Gottman Institute. Dr. Gottman is a world-renowned researcher in the area of couples and family relationships. For further information on couples workshops and private therapy, training programs for therapists and relationship books and DVDs, visit


© 2000-2007 by Dr. John M. Gottman. Distributed under license by The Gottman Institute, Inc.


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